gabbyandgeo-ymshc

The other day, I had thought about how the family dynamics have changed over the last decades is phenomenal. It’s not your standard 2-point 4 children family dynamics any long, more families are blended, same sex parents or single parent. I think family dynamics are more talked about now, than in the lasted 30 years. Children can be cruel to their peer, if their peer hasn’t got the same family dynamics.

I have blended family, I have both parents, now divorced when I was in my twenty’s. I have a stepdad, which has been in my life, over twenty years,
and my dad is partner, who has been in life for fifteen years.

In my early years of my life, I had the best of both worlds, my parents were separated and I had my grandparents on the dad side of the family. I had two aunties and two uncles and three cousins on my mum side of the family. So, I knew what it love was being in this loving family, I had great relationships with all my family members. But then the cycle of life, starts to happen when you are getting older, and the same family dynamics changed forever.

As we grow from children to adults over the years and the years are going quick. You realise that happy, sad, difficult, and enjoyed times of your life are just memories with your family. And families start to shift the dynamics in a new way complete.

I got married then I was in my early 20s, would have I changed that decision NO. Would I every changed my decision, if I could go back the answer is still NO. My marriage was not the best one, but did it shape YES, I wanted it all. The big house, fabulous job, the children, a couple that would love each other, and be in a marriage forever. But that was not the case for me, we got married and we had problems from the start, I wanted a life of luxury, we were working different shift patterns for minimum wage and working all hours to have a comfortable lifestyle. I think about it now, what were we doing it for, I was not happy at all. I wanted was 9-5 job will great pay. I was working in McDonald’s for crap pay, but was supposed to be a stock gap, intel I got a better job. As we all know I got comfortable in the job, and then I became pregnant with my oldest, never return to my job after that.

Two years down the time, I was office cleaner split up with my husband and had two-year-old and back living with my mum and stepdad. For once I thought I was going to be happy in the life, but that didn’t happen. I met someone new and started “dating them”, it turns out that they were a waste of space. They strip me of my confidences, and personality for own satisfaction, and try to destroy my family dynamics. I became pregnant again with my youngest, I came out of the situation, a lot stronger than I thought.

And now I have a blended family with my parents and their other half, plus the father of my oldest taking on my youngest of as their own, their family too. It was not easy, but we got there, I believed that every child should have a family dynamic in their life.

As the family dynamic shapes has, we grow up to be the best people we can be.

Love

Gemini xx